Balancing the Stresses of Motherhood: Learning to Let Go and Enjoy the Chaos

Motherhood is one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever experienced — but it’s also one of the hardest. Some days, I feel like I’ve got it all together, and others I’m counting down the minutes until bedtime. The truth is, balance isn’t about having everything perfectly under control. It’s about finding peace in the middle of the mess.

Taking Influencers With a Grain of Salt

When I first became a mom, I looked up to all the “perfect” moms on social media — the spotless houses, matching pajamas, organic everything, and calm babies who apparently never cried. But the more I tried to measure up, the more I realized how unrealistic that was.No one’s whole life is a highlight reel. You’re seeing a snapshot, not the story. Real motherhood is messy, loud, emotional, and beautiful all at once — and that’s okay.

A Messy Home Is Still a Happy One

My house is messy probably 80% of the time. There are toys under the couch, laundry piles waiting to be folded, and crumbs on the floor that I swear multiply overnight. But you know what? A clean house doesn’t mean it’s a fun house.I’d rather my child remember building forts in the living room or baking cookies together than me constantly cleaning up behind them. The mess can wait — the memories can’t.

Learning to Let Go of Perfection

As a mom, I look “put together” maybe 50% of the time — and that’s on a good week. Most days, it’s comfy clothes, messy bun, and no makeup. But my husband and my child don’t care if my hair is done or if my eyeliner is even. What they care about is that I’m present.Motherhood taught me that life isn’t about fancy décor or driving the nicest car. It’s about experiences, laughter, and connection.

Choosing My Battles

I prepare most of my child’s food at home, and I love giving him nutritious meals — but that doesn’t mean I don’t throw a hot dog on the stove some nights just to make life easier. Balance isn’t about doing everything perfectly; it’s about doing what works for your family in that moment.Every child is different, which means every motherhood experience is different. There’s no one-size-fits-all way to be a “good mom.”

Finding Joy in the Little Things

Your life will change when you become a mom — that’s inevitable. But instead of resisting it, embrace it. Enjoy the little moments of playtime, the sleepy snuggles, the giggles, and even the chaos.Celebrate small wins. Maybe it’s brushing your hair, getting a load of laundry done, or actually finishing your coffee. Those things count.

Go Outside, Breathe, and Be Present

One thing that’s helped me is getting outside often — even if it’s just a walk around the block or sitting on the porch while my child plays. Talk about your day, even with your little one there. It helps them learn how real life works, how we process emotions, and how to appreciate everyday moments.

Take Moments for Yourself

Whether it's sitting down and reading a book, crafting, painting your nails — whatever it is take a moment. It can be before your little one wakes up, after they go down to sleep, or even when they are just busy playing. It doesn't have to be something major but whatever helps you feel some sense of normal within the chaos of being a mother do it, it's so worth it!

Motherhood isn’t about perfection — it’s about presence. The house will get messy again, your hair will get tangled again, and that’s fine. What matters most is that your kids feel loved, safe, and seen.You’re doing better than you think.

With Love, Mommy & B🩵